Wednesday, October 13, 2004

Master of Your Inner World

One understanding that could tremendously change your life, if you haven't realized this before, is that even though it doesn't always feel so, you are ultimately the master of your inner world.

What this means is that ultimately, you are the only one who has the power to decide how anything outside yourself affects you and gets you out of a peaceful and pleasant state of mind. How could it be otherwise? Isn't it YOUR inner world after all?

We can let circumstances rule us, or we can take charge and rule our lives from within. ~ Earl Nightingale

Realizing that the cause of negative emotions, by which I mean anger, irritation, impatience, resentment, self-pity, boredom, and other such feelings that normally figure largely in a person's day, is in oneself rather than outside oneself, can be very transformative but also highly threatening to the ego because all of a sudden, one has to take responsibility for them. One cannot anymore blame anyone or anything outside him or her for any disturbance to one's inner peace.

But very rare are those who have the courage to take responsibility for their negative emotions because doing so would be the most important step toward getting rid of them and believe it or not, somewhere in us, we cherish our negative emotions. In the words of Dr. David Hawkins (paraphrased):

You have to be willing to surrender the payoff of negative emotions. Negative emotions give you a tremendous payoff. People hang onto resentment, victimhood, etc, and really play it to the point of death. They need to be the martyr, the victim, the wronged one, and justify their resentment, and this even at the cost of survival and success. Because people love feeling sorry for themselves. You have to be willing to give that up - That's all. Am I willing to let go of all the negative payoffs I'm getting? If you do, that means you've begun a new life.

So we love our negative emotions, even though they are .. well .. negative. Which means that they are ultimately not good for us, neither are they usually good for those around us. I like to compare negative emotions to candies. They bring instant gratification but at the cost of our health and greater good.

The main cause for failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want at the moment.

If you want to improve your capacity to enjoy life and be happy, then consider starting owning and taking responsibility for your negative emotions. Realize that ultimately, YOU are the master of your inner world and that nothing outside yourself is the cause of your suffering and should be blamed for it. This will change everything.

Until the next insight,

Stephane Boucher
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More related quotes

Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. ~ Viktor E. Frankl

You cannot always control circumstances. But you can control your own thoughts. ~ Charles E. Popplestone

No one outside ourselves can rule us inwardly. When we know this, we become free.

To decide to be at the level of choice, is to take responsibility for your life and to be in control of your life. ~ Arbie M. Dale

The good or bad is not in the circumstance, but only in the mind of him that encounters it. ~
James Allen

We cannot choose our external circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them. ~ Epictetus

Happiness is an attitude of mind, born of the simple determination to be happy under all outward circumstances. ~ J. Donald Walters

At the center of our agency is our freedom to form a healthy attitude toward whatever circumstances we are placed in! ~ Neal Maxwell

A man cannot directly chose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstances. ~ James Allen

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